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Parenting and Behavior Problems - Child's Cursing

As a parent of a toddler, I'm always on the lookout for good information on dealing with those sorts of behavior problems that pop up. So far we've been lucky and my daughter doesn't curse, but I saw this article and liked the common sense approach - so I've reprinted it here. ______________________________________

How to Stop Your Child's Cursing

By Dr. Kevin Passer
Board Certified Child Psychiatrist

Behavior problems are common. One needs to know how to best handle them. One conduct problem is Cursing. We all would of course prefer our children did not curse. So what is the best solution?

Parents enter directly into the equation, as when we as parents curse, our kids pick up on it and do it themselves. In fact, kids can be like miniature tape recorders, doing everything and repeating back everything they see and hear. Oppositional children try and push our buttons. So, the first thing that needs to happen here is that we parents stop our own Cursing. If you as a parent become angry and lose your cool, you still need to try and remain calm. So our kid's will learn that when there is stress, WE STAY CALM. I realize this is easier said than done, but keep in mind that young children likely do not even know what the curse words mean. They just know, that repeating the curse words results in a big response from adults. And this big rise from us, often spurs our kids on so they repeat the cussing again and again.

How do we best handle this childhood behavior problem? First, stop Cursing yourself and stop reacting to your child's Cursing. Now, I will share with you the secret weapon which ALWAYS works. The next time your young child curses, tell he or she that what they have said is "BATHROOM TALK." And then send your child to the bathroom, telling them to stay in the bathroom with the door closed until they are finished with the bathroom talk. Explain that you don't want to hear those words, that if your child wants to say those words, they need to go in the bathroom and shut the door and then they can say the bathroom words all they want. But the words are to stay in the bathroom, because you don't want to hear them. Be very matter-of-fact about it. Just say: "OK, That's Bathroom Talk, If you want to say that, go in the bathroom and come out when you are through, because I don't want to here those words here."

Follow through by not saying the curse words yourself and sending your child to the bathroom each and every time a curse word is spoken. This technique works great with children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Conduct Disorder and even ADHD. It works for kids without any Mental Illness or any other problems. I have used this technique with my own kids as well as hundreds of time with my patients. It ALWAYS works. There are few interventions which always work. This one does. I know it works. It's my job. __________________________________________________

Kevin M. Passer, M.D.
Board Certified Child Psychiatrist
Creator of the DVD:
Parenting Help for Child Behavior Problems

This award winning DVD, created by a Child Psychiatrist who has treated over 10,000 kids, shows how to apply discipline using behavior modification . These simple, but effective, techniques can help to improve child conduct problems, prevent delinquency and reduce oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).


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